We are well into social distancing due to the COVID-19 pandemic and perhaps you are fortunate enough to have established some routine and comfort during this time. If you are like me, being stripped of your day-to-day realities, celebratory events, and connections with loved ones might still have you pretty shaken. Whatever you might be doing to get yourself through these times might still not be working for you because you might be missing a key human need—relational connection.
As relational beings, we are meant to be in some type of relationship or community with one another. It has been proven by many reputable social scientists that sustained social isolation can lead to many adverse mental health reactions. This makes sense because when we are deprived of connections that are needed to reaffirm our safety, then we might feel less safe.
Whether or not you live by yourself, some type of social isolation is likely impacting you—be it from family, friends, other significant loved ones, or even your favorite bartenders from those fun nights out. Considering that we are not exactly sure how long this period is going to last, I’d like to offer some tips to manage this isolation.
Background noise:
If you’re living alone or are finding yourself with extended moments of being in your own in your space, fill your room with some background noise. Silence can perpetuate nervousness or feelings of uneasiness, so fight that silence with a really interesting podcast (like Weekly Woman), a couple of sets from one of your favorite comedians, or a great playlist (Jubilance has some great suggestions).
It’s great to hear others talking or engaging around you, even if you aren’t directly speaking to them. Try to limit listening to the news if you find it causing more nervousness.
Keeping communication alive:
I know I mentioned this last article, but it is so important to remain connected to those you love. If you are feeling overwhelmed with the amount of video chats, then perhaps you can maintain connection by establishing a pen pal chain and exchange letters with your loved ones. Receiving mail can also make you and your loved ones feel cared for and less alone.
If you can’t get enough of the video connection, then keep it going. Have a weekly date with your loved ones. Enjoy a virtual meal together or play some games.
This could also be the perfect opportunity to connect with those you may have lost touch. I was able to have a reunion video chat with old friends from high school. We hadn’t spoken for a few years and it was so much fun.
Reflecting on good times:
Positive memories can have immense power to keep us going. If you’re able, start journaling, jotting down stories, or even drawing moments with others that brought you joy, excitement, and laughter.
Perhaps you can even share those notes or doodles with the people with whom you had these experiences. If not, you have a really nice memento to look back at any moment you’re feeling particularly lonely during this time.
Future planning:
Even though you don’t know when social distancing will be completely over, having some things to look forward to can be exponentially beneficial in combatting isolation. It can give you hope for future connections.
So maybe take this time to map out some ideas for a future trip with your loved ones, where you might go to brunch as soon as you’re able with your girlfriends, or what local sites you might explore in your city as soon as you can.
Remember, however you are currently managing is totally normal and okay. You are not alone. I wish you and your loved ones peace of mind, health, and safety during these tough times.
As Always,
Live your life with Jubilance,
Becca
