If you went through the public school system like I did, you know that Sex Education was a class where most high schoolers learned about things they already knew and goofed off when asked “What is sex?”

Sex was a very funny subject for us immature high schoolers, but now it’s a more serious and real subject.

I wish I listened better during Sex Ed. Do you? Well, if you answered yes, you’re in luck because I’m about to lay out the important parts that may or may have not been mentioned before.

Different Sexualities

Before we get into the nitty gritty parts of periods, sex and birth control, it’s important to know that there are many different sexualities. The LGBTQIA+ community is a group of people that stray away from the norm of heterosexuality. 

I’m not going to get into all the different parts of this community. You can do that yourself with a quick Google search. It’s important to know and learn outside of Sex Ed that there are other ways to have sex other than just vaginal sex. 

There are many ways to love a person and Sex Education doesn’t teach the other ways. One other way that is common and shouldn’t be so taboo is anal sex. Anal sex is a common way of lovemaking in the gay community and should always involve protection.

Birth Control

With the condom being one of the most common uses of protection in the straight and gay community, we slide right into the top of contraception/birth control. Other than the condom (which comes in many different shapes, sizes AND flavors), many straight women use birth control e.i. The pill, mini pill, shot, patch, and vaginal ring to prevent unwanted pregnancies. There are also barriers similar to condoms: the diaphragm, sponge, and cervical cap that keep sperm out of the vagina. With another quick google search, you can find the best protective method for you. Planned Parenthood as well as many gay communities provide free protection for straight and gay people.

Before using any of these types of birth control or barriers it is always best to consult your doctor or gynecologist for more information and what method would be best for you. Each method has its pros and cons and none of them are 100% foolproof. My friends and I always encourage each other to use two forms of birth control like the pill and the condom. If not the condom, then a trustworthy partner that will pull out before ejaculation. It’s always important to be 200% sure you can’t get pregnant from sex unless you’re looking to have a baby.


Okay, so now that you’ve found the best protective method for you and your partner, it’s important to note that lubrication is another important aspect of comfortable and safe sex. Gay and straight people need lubrication for sex and believe it or not, there’s probably already natural lubes that you can find in your kitchen! Virgin coconut oil, olive oil, avocado oil, and aloe vera are all safe to use for lubrication during sex. 

You can also find some safe and natural lubricants online or at your nearest Walmart or Target. Always be sure to look at the ingredients before putting anything in your vagina or butthole and read some reviews as well.

Peeing After Sex

Once you have found a lubricant that makes sex comfortable and fun for you and your partner, you have birth control and barriers in place, you are ready to get down to do the dirty or make love or have sex. Sex can be a beautiful and fun activity that brings two people very close in one magical moment. It’s a wonderful interaction when it’s with a wonderful person and when the moment has ended there are still safety measures a woman must take. In order to prevent an urinary tract infection, women must pee after sex. It’s something that I learned from a friend a while ago during a random day, but it’s important for every woman to hear from a friend: PEE AFTER SEX! It’s a super easy way to avoid a nasty UTI.

Toxic Shock Syndrome

Oh and one last thing before I go, take that old tampon out of your vagina and don’t sleep with a tampon in overnight. Why? You could get Toxic Shock Syndrome. It’s rare, but it’s life-threatening and could cause you to get surgery if you get a bacterial infection from your old tampon. Never keep your tampon in for longer than 8 hours. In these cases, it’s best to be safe than sorry. Stay safe everyone!

About the author

Shea Kushnir (she/her) is currently working as an Intern at Jubilance. She is a recent graduate of Clark University with a Bachelor of Arts in Media, Culture and the Arts as well as Theater and Music. This Fall she will continue pursuing her Masters in Communications at Clark. Shea is passionate about sharing powerful stories through various types of creative media.
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