The pandemic’s made us miss a lot of different things. From meeting your friends at your favorite bar, to the Thanksgiving Day Parade, to kissing strangers on New Years Eve, to Trick or Treating. But something that’s been incredibly difficult this year has been dating.
Have you dated during the Pandemic? I really want to know!
There have been break-ups and make-ups, proposals and screaming, and dating on zoom, and having a relationship almost as if you’re in a Jane Austin novel (no touching, we go on walks together, and wear gloves).
Relationships are hard to begin with and now with the pandemic, they’re almost impossible. Whether you’re struggling with the fact that you’re ALWAYS together, or that you’re constantly alone in your home, we need human contact to feel loved, to feel supported, and to find that other half.
What are you doing to find that Bae? Coffee shops are out, elevators are a no, you don’t even want to fall into the arms of a potential partner, so all the meet cutes are OUT. So it’s time for online dating.
Here are some tips and tricks to make the most of those virtual dates, and how to find the partner you’re most interested in!
Find the Platform that’s right for you! There are so many different dating services now, make sure you find the app or the website that works for you! If you like making the first move, try Bumble! It can make it a lot less intimidating when you’re initiating what you talk about. If you like a platform that’s more like a social network, you might try Hinge, you hear about interests, get answers to some fun questions, and see some great photos. If you want to know the full picture, try OKCupid, there are so many questions to answer on the site, so you’ll really get to know the full person. Or if you’re looking within a demographic, try a website that’s closer to that religion or other area you’re looking for.
Ask a fun question that’s both fun for you and your audience. Why not ask where their favorite outdoor spot for a picnic is in your city? Or where’s the best place to order Thai food? Ask a question that leads the direction of the conversation and also, if you don’t end up liking them, at least you got some good information of where you want to order from/visit next!
Invest in Good Lighting! I’m all about the ring light, my skin looks so good in the zoom camera, even when that maskne is out! A ring light is perfect for getting great lighting in that initial virtual date, look your best, at least from the waist up!
Find fun in Virtual Dates. Why not go on zoom and comb through Zillow together. Try to find the most expensive house in your city, or the least expensive. Go visit a virtual museum, or watch a film on Netflix party! You don’t need to meet in person until you feel comfortable, it’s a pandemic, and anything goes!
Be open to your friends. Let your friends know that you’re interested in dating, you never know who might have a friend of a friend, and then they’re vetted too!
Embrace this time to be single. This is the time you get to work on yourself, to do all the projects you don’t normally get to do, and to learn as much as you can, whether that’s working on a new language, learning to bake or cook, or picking up a new skill.
Just remember that you are fabulous with or without a partner, but girl, we’ve got you with these tips if you’re interested.